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395. When Codependency Goes Too Far
Codependency becomes a problem when it influences others very negatively.
394. Thanks!
Your answer is exactly what I expected it to be.
393. What I Am Not Obliged to Do
I know my rights and obligations, and taking care of you is not one of them.
392. "They Won’t Do Anything You Ask"
I chat with the man who works at the local post office.
391. Narcissism and the Illusion of Shared Values
Some narcissists enter your life pretending they share your values.
390. "I Studied Abroad in Sweden"
I chat with a 30-year-old Chinese woman in Tai’an.
389. Chinese Shadow Puppetry
Chinese shadow puppetry shows have a long history.
388. “You should find a new Chinese husband!”
I chat with a cab driver in Jinan, the capital of Shandong Province.
387. How to Understand the Signals a Person Sends
We communicate constantly through our bodies.
386. How to Set Boundaries and What Boundaries Are Not
Setting boundaries should respect both our own rights and those of others.
385. “I Had a Girlfriend Over Eight Years Ago”
I chat with a 25-year-old Chinese man in Tai’an.
384. “Is Austria a Prosperous Country?”
I chat with a cab driver in Jinan, the capital of Shandong Province.
383. From Kiss to Commitment: Cultural Differences in Dating and Relationships
Different cultural perceptions of what an action means can lead to cultural misunderstandings.
382. You Say One Thing, He Hears Another: basic Understanding
Every message we send carries a meaning—misunderstanding occurs when that meaning is misinterpreted.
381. Fuxinghao Bullet Trains, a Remarkable Feat of Chinese Engineering
I recently took a Fuxinghao bullet train and was impressed by the quality of these trains.
380. The Connection Between Pretty Privilege and Harassment
“Pretty privilege” can contribute to harassment and other negative experiences.
379. After Almost Six Years, I’m Back in China (with Video)
I moved back to China at the end of March.
378. Breaking Free from Power Struggles
Narcissists are constantly drawing others into power struggles with them.
377. Erotomania, Fregoli Delusion, Peter Pan Syndrome, and Other Disorders
I did some research and found a few disorders I encountered with one particular stalker.
376. Understanding Stalkers: 4 Common Types Explained
There are different types of stalkers, each with distinct traits.
375. Fake Hierarchies versus Natural Order
The need for control, especially in those with narcissistic tendencies, creates artificial hierarchies that disrupt natural harmony.
374. How to stop creating debt
Rising living costs have forced people to be more creative in saving money.
373. Empaths and the Invisible Signals Human Beings Send
Empaths read energy instantly.
372. Letting Go of What Doesn’t Matter
Living frugally in a society focused on external appearances can be challenging.
371. The Lost Art of Living Slowly
Watching a snail taught me that a natural rhythm is ingrained in all of us.
370. A narcissist's self-esteem is like a chocolate Easter Bunny
On the surface, a narcissist may seem confident and self-assured, but deep down, their self-esteem is hollow and fragile.
369. The Cycle of Hatred: Why Some Wars Never End
Sometimes, you are accidentally drawn into a war.
368. Competition: When Others Compete with You, the Person Who is Talented and Great is You
I have experienced years of competition.
367. Watch My Most Recent Video “Vienna” on YouTube
I created this short video yesterday in Vienna while taking the tram.
366. Relationship Values: The Foundation for Long-Term Compatibility
In any romantic relationship, for it to work long-term or to become a relationship at all, major values have to align.
365. "Thought Stopping" (A Manipulation Tactic Used By Cults)
A stalker has tried to apply this method to me.
364. What It Sounds Like When You Ask a Stalker to Leave You Alone
When you ask a stalker to leave you alone, they’ll usually deny that you have a right to be left alone by them.
363. "Vienna (Praterkai)" Video by Ruth Silbermayr on YouTube
I created this short video yesterday in Vienna while taking a train.
362. ChatGPT Isn’t Dangerous—Unless Someone Hacks It
We don’t usually need to be too afraid of ChatGPT, except when someone hacks into it.
361. Truth Tellers and Brainwashed Kids: Independent vs. Dependent Thinking
Each society consists of truth tellers and brainwashed children, though one may appear more frequently than the other.
360. The Difference Between Real and Perceived Self-Confidence
Certain signs show that a person has real self-confidence, while other signs reveal fake self-confidence.
359. Understanding Stalkers and Their Behavior
I have never met a stalker who wasn’t a narcissist, but dealing with a stalker is still different from dealing with a narcissist who isn’t a stalker.
358. I Am Not the Woman You’re Looking For—Go Find Someone Who Is
We aren’t a match and never will be; don’t waste my time by stalking me.
357. What Makes a Person More Likely to Be Stalked?
Certain factors can increase the likelihood of being stalked.
356. Stalking in the Digital Age: A Modern Nightmare
Stalking is very common and has become easier due to the rise of stalkerware.
355. When Feng Shui Foretells Heartbreak: A Custody Battle Across Borders
Susan Blumberg-Kason recently featured a guest post of mine on her blog.
354. Signs a Person Is Suffering From a Superiority Complex
These are the signs a person is suffering from a superiority complex.
353. What Is a Person's Right to Control?
There are things a person has the right to control and others they do not.
352. Real Intelligence Is Not a Number
People tend to think that intelligence equals IQ, but there’s much more to being intelligent than just scoring high on an IQ test.
351. How Long Does It Take To Write a Post?
Blogging involves time, effort, and a creative process that goes beyond just writing posts.