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I Am Not the Woman You’re Looking For—Go Find Someone Who Is
We aren’t a match and never will be; don’t waste my time by stalking me.
25/02/2025
Ruth Silbermayr
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You want a woman who constantly goes shopping to make you happy and excited?
Go find a woman like that—I am not her.
You want a woman who takes care of you emotionally, financially, and physically?
Go find a woman willing to do that—I am not her.
You are looking for an older woman?
Go find one who likes younger men. Don’t waste your time with a woman who refuses to date a man with an Oedipus complex—someone who acts like a helpless child and expects a woman to be his provider. I am not that woman.
You want a woman who spends all her time with you?
Go find someone who enjoys constant togetherness. If you’re incapable of being alone for even a second despite being in your thirties, find a woman as codependent as you—I am not her.
You want a woman who stays silent about your abuse?
Who accepts your put-downs, believes she’s ugly because you say so, thinks she’s dumb when you claim she is, and clings to you out of insecurity?
Go find a woman like that—I am not her.
You want a woman who obeys external authority instead of trusting her own intuition?
Go find a woman like that—I am not her.
You expect a woman to accept that you won’t even buy her a coffee, that she must chase after you, admire you no matter how unintelligent you are, and let you live off her while she provides for you?
Go find a woman like that—I am not her.
You want a woman who enjoys listening to your endless negativity and judgment, who tolerates your control over every tiny detail of her existence—including her facial expressions and emotions?
Go find a woman like that—I am not her.
You want a woman with no sexual boundaries, who exists only to satisfy your constant need for sex?
Go find a woman like that—I am not interested.
You want a woman who believes men are superior to women?
Go find a woman like that—I am not her.
You think Austrians are inferior to Germans?
Then why pretend you want to date an Austrian woman? Austrians and Germans are not vastly different, no matter how much you try to convince yourself otherwise. Go find a woman who fits your delusion of superiority and enjoys dating a racist man—I am not her.
You think I make mistakes all the time and never do anything right? That everything I say or do is wrong and deserves your criticism, your shouting, and your punishment when I don’t submit?
Then go find a woman so ‘perfect’ that she meets your impossible standards. If you’re constantly belittling someone, what you’re really suggesting is that you see yourself as perfect—but your unprofessional, out-of-control behavior proves otherwise. I am not into people who are extremely superficial, who need to live a shallow life, who pretend to be perfect, or who feel the need to control every little aspect of life instead of simply being happy and present. You know—enjoying life, nature, just being—being zen, wuwei, doing nothing, appreciating another person’s presence, having good communication without resorting to verbal abuse or put-downs, and finding meaning in the little things. Go find such a woman—I am not her.
You want a woman obsessed with superficial topics—looks, fashion, Instagram, and influencers?
I am not interested in superficial men with no distinct personality. Instead of trying to mold me into someone I’ll never be, go find someone who already fits your standards. Go find a woman like that—I am not her.
Not the woman you’re looking for? Keep searching.
Have you ever experienced that a man who wasn’t a match harassed you for years, claiming he was?
On a side note:
I had disabled comments for the past few years due to stalking. I’ve now reactivated them on all posts, so feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of the page. Please stay polite and respectful in your comments, or I will have to delete them!