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400. Triangulation and Control: The Toxic Playbook of a Narcissist
Narcissists are often woke and use triangulation to attack their victims.
399. Silencing, Persecution, and the Aftermath of Having Been Drawn Into a War With a Narcissist
I have left Europe because I was persecuted by narcissists repeatedly.
398. Speaking Chinese, Living Chinese: A Foreigner’s Perspective
I have moved back to China at the end of March.
397. “What do you think about Chinese guys?”
I chat with a 30-year-old Chinese woman in Tai’an.
396. “The Goddess of Mount Tai Protects the Inhabitants of Tai’an”
I chat with the owner of a small toy shop in Tai’an.
395. When Codependency Goes Too Far
Codependency becomes a problem when it influences others very negatively.
394. Thanks!
Your answer is exactly what I expected it to be.
393. What I Am Not Obliged to Do
I know my rights and obligations, and taking care of you is not one of them.
392. "They Won’t Do Anything You Ask"
I chat with the man who works at the local post office.
391. Narcissism and the Illusion of Shared Values
Some narcissists enter your life pretending they share your values.
390. "I Studied Abroad in Sweden"
I chat with a 30-year-old Chinese woman in Tai’an.
389. Chinese Shadow Puppetry
Chinese shadow puppetry shows have a long history.
388. “You should find a new Chinese husband!”
I chat with a cab driver in Jinan, the capital of Shandong Province.
387. How to Understand the Signals a Person Sends
We communicate constantly through our bodies.
386. How to Set Boundaries and What Boundaries Are Not
Setting boundaries should respect both our own rights and those of others.
385. “I Had a Girlfriend Over Eight Years Ago”
I chat with a 25-year-old Chinese man in Tai’an.
384. “Is Austria a Prosperous Country?”
I chat with a cab driver in Jinan, the capital of Shandong Province.
383. From Kiss to Commitment: Cultural Differences in Dating and Relationships
Different cultural perceptions of what an action means can lead to cultural misunderstandings.
382. You Say One Thing, He Hears Another: basic Understanding
Every message we send carries a meaning—misunderstanding occurs when that meaning is misinterpreted.
381. Fuxinghao Bullet Trains, a Remarkable Feat of Chinese Engineering
I recently took a Fuxinghao bullet train and was impressed by the quality of these trains.
380. The Connection Between Pretty Privilege and Harassment
“Pretty privilege” can contribute to harassment and other negative experiences.
379. After Almost Six Years, I’m Back in China (with Video)
I moved back to China at the end of March.
378. Breaking Free from Power Struggles
Narcissists are constantly drawing others into power struggles with them.
377. Erotomania, Fregoli Delusion, Peter Pan Syndrome, and Other Disorders
I did some research and found a few disorders I encountered with one particular stalker.
376. Understanding Stalkers: 4 Common Types Explained
There are different types of stalkers, each with distinct traits.
375. Fake Hierarchies versus Natural Order
The need for control, especially in those with narcissistic tendencies, creates artificial hierarchies that disrupt natural harmony.
374. How to stop creating debt
Rising living costs have forced people to be more creative in saving money.
373. Empaths and the Invisible Signals Human Beings Send
Empaths read energy instantly.
372. Letting Go of What Doesn’t Matter
Living frugally in a society focused on external appearances can be challenging.
371. The Lost Art of Living Slowly
Watching a snail taught me that a natural rhythm is ingrained in all of us.
370. A narcissist's self-esteem is like a chocolate Easter Bunny
On the surface, a narcissist may seem confident and self-assured, but deep down, their self-esteem is hollow and fragile.
369. The Cycle of Hatred: Why Some Wars Never End
Sometimes, you are accidentally drawn into a war.
368. Competition: When Others Compete with You, the Person Who is Talented and Great is You
I have experienced years of competition.
367. Watch My Most Recent Video “Vienna” on YouTube
I created this short video yesterday in Vienna while taking the tram.
366. Relationship Values: The Foundation for Long-Term Compatibility
In any romantic relationship, for it to work long-term or to become a relationship at all, major values have to align.
365. "Thought Stopping" (A Manipulation Tactic Used By Cults)
A stalker has tried to apply this method to me.
364. What It Sounds Like When You Ask a Stalker to Leave You Alone
When you ask a stalker to leave you alone, they’ll usually deny that you have a right to be left alone by them.
363. "Vienna (Praterkai)" Video by Ruth Silbermayr on YouTube
I created this short video yesterday in Vienna while taking a train.
362. ChatGPT Isn’t Dangerous—Unless Someone Hacks It
We don’t usually need to be too afraid of ChatGPT, except when someone hacks into it.
361. Truth Tellers and Brainwashed Kids: Independent vs. Dependent Thinking
Each society consists of truth tellers and brainwashed children, though one may appear more frequently than the other.
360. The Difference Between Real and Perceived Self-Confidence
Certain signs show that a person has real self-confidence, while other signs reveal fake self-confidence.
359. Understanding Stalkers and Their Behavior
I have never met a stalker who wasn’t a narcissist, but dealing with a stalker is still different from dealing with a narcissist who isn’t a stalker.
358. I Am Not the Woman You’re Looking For—Go Find Someone Who Is
We aren’t a match and never will be; don’t waste my time by stalking me.
357. What Makes a Person More Likely to Be Stalked?
Certain factors can increase the likelihood of being stalked.
356. Stalking in the Digital Age: A Modern Nightmare
Stalking is very common and has become easier due to the rise of stalkerware.
355. When Feng Shui Foretells Heartbreak: A Custody Battle Across Borders
Susan Blumberg-Kason recently featured a guest post of mine on her blog.
354. Signs a Person Is Suffering From a Superiority Complex
These are the signs a person is suffering from a superiority complex.
353. What Is a Person's Right to Control?
There are things a person has the right to control and others they do not.
352. Real Intelligence Is Not a Number
People tend to think that intelligence equals IQ, but there’s much more to being intelligent than just scoring high on an IQ test.
351. How Long Does It Take To Write a Post?
Blogging involves time, effort, and a creative process that goes beyond just writing posts.
350. “Hungarians Think Austrians Have Been Really Brainwashed”
I chat with a man from Hungary.
349. True Greatness Reveals Itself—No Marketing Required
Certain traits are self-evident and don’t need to be forced upon others for them to believe.
348. What is Emotional Immaturity?
Learn how to spot the signs of emotional immaturity in an adult.
347. The Psychology of Entitled Men: Stalking, Mooching, and Control
When you encounter an incel, run!
346. Enmeshed Relationships: How to Spot the Signs of Unhealthy Enmeshment
Enmeshment occurs when one person is unable to understand that others are distinct from them.
345. Interview with Nicole Webb (Author of China Blonde)
Read my latest interview with Nicole Webb, author of China Blonde.
344. Symptoms and Causes of Writer's Block
Many writers experience writer’s block at some point in their careers.
343. Real Victims vs. People Who Play the Victim
Can you spot the difference between a person who is a real victim and one who plays the victim?
342. Signs of a Jealous Chinese Mother-in-Law
Are you dealing with a jealous Chinese mother-in-law?
341. Surviving Domestic Violence: My Chinese Ex-husband’s Death Threats
My ex-husband repeatedly threatened to kill me or have me killed if he ever found me with another man or if I ever left him.
340. 2025: The Chinese Year of the Snake
Today marks the first day of the Chinese Year of the Snake.
339. International Divorce in Austria
How does an international divorce work in Austria?
338. Cats and Feng Shui
Nicki Chen recently published two posts about me.
337. Examples of Hacking (2): Watch My Latest YouTube Video
My accounts are frequently hacked.
336. Vienna Central Station (Watch My Latest YouTube Short)
Join me as I explore Vienna Central Station.
335. Signs Your Chinese Mother-In-Law Is a Narcissist
In this post, I am sharing a list of common behaviors exhibited by a narcissistic Chinese mother-in-law.
334. Dear Chinese Kitchen God,
am I the narcissist?
333. Is Chinese Hard to Learn?
Chinese is often said to be hard to learn. Is this true?
332. Signs Your Chinese Husband Is Stalking You
Stalking is common in AMWF relationships.
331. Do Chinese Mothers-in-Law Accept Mixed Children?
Many Chinese mothers-in-law wish for a fully Chinese grandchild.
330. Understanding Psychopathy: The Psychopathic Stare
One of the signs giving away a psychopath is the “psychopathic stare”.
329. Is Your Chinese Mother-in-Law Plotting to Steal Your Children?
I used to have frequent fights over the role of the parent with my former Chinese mother-in-law, who eventually stole my children so they wouldn’t be with me.
328. “Stop Saying You’re Fine" (by Mel Robbins)
How do you change your situation when it seems like there’s nothing you can do to change it?
327. What Consent Is and What It Isn’t
Consent is often used in the context of sexual encounters, but it also refers to other situations.
326. Vienna at Night: My Latest Short Film on YouTube (Let’s Slow Down Together)
My most recent video shows Vienna at night.
325. Life in China as an Expat
I used to live in China from 2009 to 2010 and from 2012 to 2019.
324. Coercive Control: When an Abuser Tries to Prevent You from Leaving
Lauren Kozlowski describes what coercive control is and what to look out for when experiencing it in her book about coercive control.
323. Problems Between Chinese Mothers-In-Law and Daughters-In-Law
Problems with a Chinese mother-in-law are common, and here are the 10 most frequent conflicts in mother- and daughter-in-law relationships.
322. Life in Shenzhen (Guangdong Province, China)
I used to live in Shenzhen from 2012 to 2014.
321. “Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism” (by Sandy Hotchkiss)
Sandy Hotchkiss explains the seven signs of a narcissist in her book.
320. This Is What Happens When You Become Too Successful
When you start to experience success, you might face repeated harassment, obstacles, and sabotage.
319. Beware of Toxic In-Laws (In China and abroad)
Many Western women who have married Chinese men have come to realize that they are dealing with toxic in-laws.
318. How to prepare for a divorce from a narcissistic Chinese husband
These are my recommendations for divorcing a narcissistic spouse.
317. Pregnancy in China: What to Expect as an Expat
I lived in Shenzhen, Guangdong province, China, during my first pregnancy and in Siping, Jilin province, during my second pregnancy.
316. The Problem With Mother-Enmeshed-Sons (MEM) In AMWF Relationships and Beyond
A marriage with a mother-enmeshed son (MEM) is often doomed to fail.
315. How Christmas is Celebrated in Austria and in China
In China, Christmas is an opportunity for couples to go on a date.
314. Understanding Introversion: A Call for Acceptance
I have been bullied repeatedly for being an introvert.
313. No Apologies: Choosing Individuality Over People-Pleasing
I have encountered many people who tried to turn me into a people pleaser.
312. The Dangerous Shift of Right-Wing Parties in Europe
In recent years, right-wing parties have grown exponentially in many European countries.
311. Role Reversal: When a Chinese Grandmother Raises Your Child
Chinese grandmothers often compete with their daughters-in-law over the role of the mother.
310. Why European Women Choose to Date Chinese Men
There are many reasons why European women choose to date Chinese men, one of which is commitment.
309. China's 30-Day Divorce Cooling-Off Period
China introduced a 30-day-divorce cooling-off period in 2021.
308. Vienna (Watch My Most Recent Short Film)
My most recent video is a short film about Vienna.
307. Rain (My Latest Short Film on YouTube)
Do you enjoy rainy days?
306. Chongqing: China's Capital During World War II
Chongqing was one of the cities bombarded by the Japanese in what is referred to as the “bombing of Chongqing”.
305. An Interview With Oscar J. Starr III About Financial Abuse
Oscar J. Starr III is the author of the book “Broken Relationships: Encountering Financial Abuse in Marriage”.
304. What Is Financial Abuse?
Financial abuse is common not only in relationships but also in various other scenarios.
303. 4000 Euros For 10 Video Calls
People tend to think that suing for custody is easy, but it’s not.
302. The European Court of Human Rights (ECHR) in Strasbourg
After pursuing custody in the third instance in Austria, I applied to the ECHR in Strasbourg.
301. How Common Is Divorce in Relationships Between Chinese Men and Western Women (Amwf Couples)?
When we read happy stories about AMWF couples, we might not consider that divorce is common, but it is.