articles 460. When dumb people think they are Intelligent There are many people who aren’t actually very intelligent, but believe they are. Read 459. The Difference Between Having a Legitimate Opinion and Being Overly Opinionated I examine how opinions are shared and the dynamics of opinion suppression in Europe. Read 458. Betrayal Is a Part of Any Relationship With a Narcissist If you are in a long-term relationship with a malignant narcissist, you will almost inevitably experience betrayal at some point. Read 457. When It Gets to That Point, It’s Already Too Late Learning from history is necessary to not repeat the past. Read 456. When Will I Decline Communication? There are certain situations where declining communication is completely legitimate. Read 455. The Only Thing Anyone Would Ever Want From a Narcissist What narcissists do to other people is so horrific, it can’t consciously be forgiven. Read 454. Qingdao Metro (Video) I visited Qingdao in May this year. Read 453. How to Spot a Voyeur Some narcissists are voyeuristic, which is why it’s helpful to know what to look for. Read 452. When Your Life and Relationships Aren’t Yours Anymore One of the greatest dangers with certain people is that they may steal your identity. Read 451. Do Narcissists Research Narcissism? When a person enters your life telling you they’ve researched narcissism, be careful. They might be a narcissist. Read 450. Metacognition: Thinking Critically About the Way You Think The ability to reflect on our own thoughts is called metacognition. Read 449. Unconscious, Disrespectful, and Dumb—but Thinks He's the Exact Opposite When you’re dealing with a narcissist, everything gets turned around. Read 448. The Crazy Things They Do and Still Think They’re Right Malignant narcissists are always dangerous, but some truly are worse than others. Read 447. The Masters of Chaos The masters of chaos are people who create chaos in other people’s lives. Read 446. How to Travel Cheaply and Comfortably on China’s Fast Trains Chinese bullet trains come with many conveniences. Read 445. After Almost Six Years: Seeing My Children Again in Siping I took a fast train in early June to see my children again after almost six years of separation. Read 444. Stalking and Boundaries Stalkers tend to violate another person’s boundaries horrifically. Read 443. When an Adult Man Refuses to Grow Up Some men attempt to force women into the role of a mother in relation to them. Read 442. Fascism Doesn’t Always Wear a Uniform According to the US Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, there are 14 early warning signs of fascism. Read 441. When You Have the Status of a Slave When someone sees themselves as superior, they may treat you like a “slave,” assigning you no worth of your own. Read 440. How to Spot Erotomania Erotomania is a mental disorder where a person projects onto you that you are in love with them. Read 439. When You’re Considered to Be a Person Who Has No Rights Certain narcissists enjoy treating people as though there was a true caste system in place. Read 438. When You're Being Forced To Overspend Narcissists may force you to overspend by pretending you need to spend money to be considered a worthwhile human being. Read 437. Scapegoats: The Unfair Targets of Others’ Wrongdoing There’s hardly anything worse than being made the scapegoat. Read 436. Speaking Up Shouldn’t Cost Us Everything Over the past few years, I’ve dealt with more attacks on my credibility than I can count. Read 435. "My Ex-husband Also Had Affairs" I chat with the owner of a hostel in Qingdao. Read 434. When Someone Takes Up Too Much Space When a person takes up so much space that others can’t, they’re not being considerate of other people. Read 433. When Your Goals Are Sabotaged by Narcissists Sabotage is sometimes obvious, but often it’s hidden. Read 432. Spyware: The Hidden Threat in Your Phone Spyware can be used to stalk and surveil you, and it has been found to be used on a massive scale. Read 431. Abuse of Power Abuse of power is when power is abused in a way where it is to the detriment of another person. Read 430. The One Kind of Person You Don't Want to Encounter at Night Machiavellians are the most dangerous kind of people you can encounter. Read 429. Understanding and Recognizing Emotional Incest Emotional incest is most commonly known as a form of abuse that happens in parent-child relationships. Read 428. From Lhasa to Hogwarts: Growing Up With Books I have always been a lover of the written word. Read 427. When A Person Thinks They are God-like Narcissists sometimes develop a God complex, thinking they are infallible. Read 426. The Four Tendencies: Rebels and Questioners Each of us are born with one main tendency: either Rebel, Questioner, Upholder or Obliger. Read 425. What is Reverse Racism? Reverse racism refers to discrimination against individuals—often White people—based on their race. Read 424. Narcissistic Triangulation: When Two Becomes Three Every narcissist triangulates, and it can feel rather uncomfortable when they do. Read 423. When Abusers Deny the Abuse and Silence Their Victims When you speak up about having experienced abuse, the perpetrator will often deny what happened and try to silence you. Read 422. The Stages of Bullying Bullying often unfolds in distinct stages. Read 421. Caught in the Grip: The Experience of Being Engulfed Engulfment is a common tactic used by narcissists to trap their victims. Read 420. Bossing: When Control Is Imposed Without Consent Bossing is a form of bullying in the context of a power dynamic where one person has or imposes power over another. Read 419. China's Newer Metro Systems Are Very Effective Taking the metro in China’s megacities is a convenient way to get around. Read 418. To a Real Narcissist (and Racist), Nothing Is Ever Good Enough To a true narcissist — especially one with racist views — nothing is ever good enough. Read 417. Is it the Right Direction? Direction matters. Read 416. The Limits of Tolerance Just as with anything, there are limits to what we are able to tolerate. Read 415. Not a Match When dating, the first step is to find a suitable match—not someone who is completely incompatible. Read 414. Gaslighting: When Carrots Are Called Potatoes (and You’re Supposed to Agree) Gaslighting is what abusers use to make you doubt your reality. Read 413. Why Are You Constantly Talking About Your Father? I am not a fan of triangulation, and I have asked you to stop. Read 412. When Someone Claims They're An Empath, But They Are Not Some people use manipulation to pretend they have a skill they don’t actually have. Read 411. From Rights to Ruin: The Narcissist’s World Order Narcissists have a long history of destroying other people’s lives. Read 410. Control, Control, and ... Even More Control Some narcissists are rather unrelaxed human beings who … stress other people out all the time. Read 409. Yes, Other People Are Allowed to Have Boundaries Go, figure! Read 408. Spam Comments These are some recent spam comments I’ve received. Read 407. Dangerous and Non-dangerous Racism When it comes to racism, there is a significant difference between harmful and non-harmful forms. Read 406. No, I Wouldn't (Or: You don’t get to choose that.) Read 405. Is It a Need or a Want? A need means something is necessary for survival; a want means it is not. Read 404. Let Me Repeat My Boundary Let me say it again: I am interested in neither you nor your daddy. Read 403. The Dangers of Incel Groups: When a Person Changes Beyond Recognition Someone I once knew completely changed after becoming involved in incel forums. Read 402. When the Narrative Is Stolen from the Victim A victim who tells her story truthfully is powerful, but often, others steal her story and share it inaccurately. Read 401. Groups and Rules Typically, groups have spoken or unspoken rules that must be followed if you want to remain a part of them. Read older articles