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True Greatness Reveals Itself—No Marketing Required
Certain traits are self-evident and don’t need to be forced upon others for them to believe.
19/02/2025
Ruth Silbermayr
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How do you show intelligence? Do you prove it by loudly declaring that you are highly intelligent, far more so than others?
How do you show beauty? By copying Instagram influencers, dressing like them, or following some fashion guru’s advice on what makes someone attractive?
How do you show talent? By constantly announcing how talented you are, yet never producing anything that actually demonstrates that talent?
How do you show success? By repeating phrases from so-called successful people online and then claiming you are just like them?
How do you show that you are a kind and likable person? By engaging in cruel, manipulative behavior, then demanding others acknowledge how nice you are?
The truth is, all of these qualities reveal themselves through your beingness, not your words. Intelligence is not something you declare—it becomes evident in how you think, speak, and behave. If you are intelligent, you don’t need to convince others; it will be obvious.
The same applies to beauty. You don’t need to argue with people about whether you are beautiful; true beauty is self-evident.
Talent, too, speaks for itself. If you are truly talented, your work will show it. No need to boast, compete, or tear others down—talent stands on its own. Those who feel the need to destroy someone else’s work in order to claim superiority are revealing their own insecurity. After all, why attack someone who supposedly has no talent? The real threat, to a narcissist, lies in those who do, not those who don’t.
Success follows the same principle. It is not something you need to announce; it is reflected in your accomplishments and behavior. Running around demanding recognition does not make you successful—it makes you desperate for validation. True success needs no declaration.
All of these qualities stem from who you are, not from forced displays or manipulation. When someone constantly proclaims their greatness, attractiveness, or superiority—yet behaves in ways that contradict their words—there is no reason to believe them.
Always support your claims with facts. If people doubt you, let your actions provide the proof. Yet, when someone truly possesses intelligence, beauty, talent, or success, they rarely need to prove it—because it simply shows.
Greatness is not in what you say about yourself but in how you exist in the world. Attempting to manipulate others into believing a false narrative about yourself—especially through deceit, or gaslighting—only reveals a lack of authenticity.
Some may fall for a dishonest marketing campaign—one where a person builds themselves up while degrading others, particularly those they claim to want to be with. But true connection, respect, and admiration are not won through force or manipulation.
Respect is earned through transparency and integrity. Authenticity speaks for itself. And no amount of self-promotion can disguise a lack of substance.
A person’s beingness is what reflects a person’s true character, not just their actions or words. If someone constantly boasts about their superiority—whether in intelligence, attractiveness, or success—yet behaves irrationally, refuses to let others form their own opinions, and provides no real evidence to support their claims, then their words likely hold no truth.
Also, if superficial topics dominate your conversations, we are not a match. I am not interested in small talk, materialism, or individuals who prioritize shopping over living a meaningful life. Financial manipulation or emotional abuse is equally unacceptable. I value authenticity and genuine connections, not someone with an inflated ego who sees themselves as a “healer” yet avoids true self-reflection.
Always support what you say with facts. If others doubt you, but your claims are backed by evidence, they may come to see the truth. However, true qualities do not need constant validation—they reveal themselves naturally. Greatness is demonstrated through character, not through manipulation or deceptive self-promotion.
Some may be naïve enough to fall for misleading self-marketing—where a man elevates himself while putting down a woman he claims to want. Instead of expressing sincere admiration (‘I appreciate your kindness, intelligence, and confidence’), the stalker tends to assert, ‘You need to be with me because I am so superior that you must recognize my greatness. You won’t get any other man, and therefore, you must be with me because I am a superior man.’ This is not love—it is narcissism.
Notice how he is only focused on himself, speaking about his own greatness without acknowledging the other person? This is like looking in the wrong direction. If he were truly interested in me, he would be talking about my qualities—my intelligence, beauty, or uniqueness—just as a man who is more successful with women would. The focus should be on the woman, not on inflating his own ego.
Respect and genuine affection cannot be forced or manipulated. If someone resorts to control, false accusations, or coercion to remain in another person’s life, it is not love but obsession. Healthy relationships are based on mutual respect, not force or desperation.
Marketing, after all, is a form of manipulation. No one wants to be deceived, lied to, or gaslit into accepting a false narrative. If you lack the qualities you claim to have, reality will eventually expose you. People can see whether or not you are intelligent, attractive, or truthful. So why should they believe you—simply because you insist they must?
Do you agree?
On a side note:
I had disabled comments for the past few years due to stalking. I’ve now reactivated them on all posts, so feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of the page. Please stay polite and respectful in your comments, or I will have to delete them!
Guten tag, I’ve heard your life story and i have a great empathy for you. I just wonder: Do you have a plan to a compete new life in your home country, Austria or other European countries?
Hi! Thanks! I am currently living in Austria, no plans to move to another European country.