China Elevator Stories

“There’s Not Much I And My Husband Talk About Anymore”

I have lunch with my Chinese co-worker in Shenzhen.


Ruth Silbermayr
Ruth Silbermayr


I have lunch with my new co-worker. She is a woman in her mid-to-late 30s and has a two-year-old child. After she asks me about marrying my husband, I inquire: “You’re married, aren’t you?”
“I am.”
“Have you two been together for long?”
“We have. We met quite a long time ago.”

couple China illustration - Ruth Silbermayr

I ask her: “Did you meet at university?”
She says: “No, we met at work, just like you and your husband did. It was my first job. We have been together for 10 years now. When I come home in the evenings, I like to play with my little boy. Being together for such a long time and having a small kid to take care of, well, to be honest, there’s not much I and my husband talk about anymore.”

I don’t really know what to reply to this. My co-worker doesn’t seem too unhappy about the fact that she and her husband don’t talk much with each other, but rather like this is something that she has gotten used to early into her relationship.

Do you think that this is a common problem for couples who have been together for years?

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