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“There’s Not Much I And My Husband Talk About Anymore”

I have lunch with my Chinese co-worker in Shenzhen.

21/11/2013

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I have lunch with my new co-worker. She is a woman in her mid-to-late 30s and has a two-year-old child. After she asks me about marrying my husband, I inquire, “You’re married, aren’t you?”
“I am.”
“Have you two been together for long?”
“We have. We met quite a long time ago.”

“There’s Not Much I And My Husband Talk About Anymore”

I ask her, “Did you meet at university?”
She replies, “No, we met at work, just like you and your husband did. It was my first job. We’ve been together for 10 years now. When I come home in the evenings, I like to play with my little boy. Being together for such a long time and having a small child to take care of, well, to be honest, there’s not much my husband and I talk about anymore.”

I’m not really sure how to respond to this. My co-worker doesn’t seem too unhappy about the fact that she and her husband don’t talk much anymore, and it seems like something she’s gotten used to early on in their relationship.

Do you think that this is a common problem for couples who have been together for years?

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