China Elevator Stories

telling the truth

My family has not dealt correctly with the situation I have found myself in.


Ruth Silbermayr
Ruth Silbermayr


My family’s reaction when I told them I had a person follow me was completely wrong. As of today, I know of at least 3 strangers who followed me these last few years, on top of my ex-husband stalking me through friends and family.

Instead of believing me, certain people in my family started to destroy my reputation and started spreading lies about me instead. One common misperception was that I was exaggerating and that the things I told them had happened hadn’t even happened.

I am what is called a truth teller in my family system.

I believe this to be an inborn trait. In my case, it is coupled with being the family’s scapegoat. I wish the role of being the family’s scapegoat upon no one. It is the most horrific family role a person can find herself in.

With regards to telling the truth, the following is the case: I see the truth, and I tell it. Usually, this leads to precarious situations where I am constantly being punished by people for telling the truth.

When a whole family doesn’t believe the victim and comes to the wrong conclusion that the victim is not credible, what can happen is that the victim, the person who is telling the truth, is left with no help and with no person who believes her and takes her side. Often, the victim will also be portrayed to be some kind of perpetrator.

The victim may find herself becoming completely isolated and also being shunned by her family simply for telling the truth.

This is what I had to deal with for more than 5 years now.

As a truth teller, I naturally do not care about lying, acting, or putting on a mask. The only thing that is important to me is the truth. I do not tolerate liars well, and I can often sense if someone is lying or telling the truth.

Are you a truth teller?

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