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What I Find Attractive in a Man
This is a brief overview of the behaviors I find attractive in a man.
18/08/2024
Ruth Silbermayr
Author
When a man makes me his emotional caretaker, I find this incredibly attractive.
When a man doesn’t take responsibility, I find this very sexy.
When a man cheats on me, I feel special and want to be with him.
When a man humiliates me, degrades me, and makes me beg for him to come back, I feel special and want to be with this man.
When a man acts like a pussy, I want to be with him.
When a man has no self-esteem and needs to be on Instagram, I find this extremely masculine and attractive.
When a man guilt trips me when I set a boundary, I feel like I really want to be with him.
When he can’t communicate healthily, I think he’s the one!
When a man is superficial, I find him extremely attractive.
When a man doesn’t make me his number one but constantly pays attention to other women, I find this very alluring.
When a man only talks about himself and never considers me, I want to be with him.
When he writes a love song that has the name of another woman in it, even though he is referring to me in this song and not the other woman, I realize how much I love him and how much he loves me.
When he silences me and threatens and intimidates me when I speak up about the abuse I have suffered at his hands, I realize how manly he is.
Oh, and men who throw tantrums, aren’t they some of the cutest and most adorable men there are!
(Just kidding.)
To the person who bullied me: Thanks for your suicide-bullying yesterday. What is suicide-bullying? Bullying another person until she wants to take her life. You mean nothing to me. We are separated and we will always be. We will never be together, and you don’t have a right to play victim here when you are the perpetrator, not the victim.
I am familiar with suicide-bullying because I have experienced it many times.
I have experienced this by other people as well, including one of my sisters. Is my family going to take responsibility for this? I have asked them to, but they prefer to stay in denial. They are protecting the bully and shaming the victim. Thanks for all the years of cruel treatment; we live in a cruel, not a kind, world.
There is nothing wrong with a person who has wanted to take her life after experiencing years of extreme bullying and horrific treatment by her family. But there is everything wrong with people who project onto the victim that she is wrong or crazy for talking about what she has experienced and for asking people to stop enabling the abuse.
What do you find attractive in a man?