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When You Have the Status of a Slave
When someone sees themselves as superior, they may treat you like a “slave,” assigning you no worth of your own.
11/06/2025
Ruth Silbermayr
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One narcissist I have been dealing with for years has, one day, decided that I am not worth any more than a slave. I should constantly listen to his negativity, his judgement of a situation (even when no one invited him in to comment on things having “no differentiated opinion at all”). Usually, if we look for others to voice an opinion, it is because we see them as an authority, as intelligent enough to give a legit opinion, and certainly, because we asked for an outside opinion.
This person, though, offers his opinion all the time (like, 3,000,000 times a day), constantly misjudges situations, and pretends he is the most intelligent, the best, the only person allowed to have an opinion—one that everyone else is expected to adopt, no matter how unintelligent it is. His intuitive intelligence is completely lacking, yet he still pretends he’s doing you a favor by forcing you to act against your nature, to do things that feel unhealthy for you, and that hurt or abuse your body.
Point this out to him? You aren’t even allowed to do that, because everyone has to put him on an extremely high pedestal.
I don’t care about the opinion of people like him who suffer a severe form of a superiority complex, push themselves onto other people without allowing these people to be introverts, quiet, not constantly have to hear an opinion about EVERYTHING (from how that stranger just looked at you to what they think about your children and what you’re supposed to do with regards to your children and ex-husband, how you’re supposed to behave, what you’re supposed to do, etc.).
They aren’t a parent, but they aren’t allowing you to have a relationship with your kids where they don’t interfere, don’t constantly comment on your kids (negatively, which he does all the time, uninvited), then wanting me to be extremely grateful because he offered his immensely “true opinion,” and it is the only opinion that is true and that counts—not a mentally ill person saying something extremely off. If they were a parent, they also wouldn’t be a good parent, but put a child’s life at risk. Still, what they see when they look in the mirror is a person who is allowed to comment on everything, be in your every relationship, therapize you all the time (putting you into 24/7 therapy), pretending they are above everyone, beyond reproach—that there’s nothing wrong with them, but with you. And because there’s so much wrong with you, due to whatever schizophrenic reason, you now need to listen to their opinion about everything: intrusive thoughts about your children and your private relationships—relationships you never meant to share with them or invite them into—and therapizing your whole life (without this behavior actually leading to true healing), never allowing you to just be and live, but constantly analyzing everything, having to have an opinion on everything—mostly, a bad opinion that isn’t based on having a strong self.
When you say no or put a stop to it, they’ll just make you out to be even more of a dumb person who won’t take their advice or who has the wrong opinion. Even more so because you’re a woman and they are a man. Tell him he’s dumb for thinking his opinion is so worthwhile? Well, he’ll just smash you any way he can, using extreme childish and immature behavior, showing you how unable he actually is in living a healthy, adult life and acting like one.
That it was them who first overstepped a boundary and severely violated your boundaries by just checking out how your relationships are, whom you’re having a relationship with, or wanting to play a part in the life of your children—but not allowing you to have an undisturbed relationship with your children—is denied, denied, denied. When you point out the boundary, you’ll be ignored, treated like a slave (like a person who has no rights to privacy, autonomy, and living a life free of their dysfunction and unwanted opinions).
You’ll be forced to do everything on your own, including taking on their responsibilities—until you break. Your body will bear the brunt of him pushing his responsibilities onto you. You won’t be allowed to be “weak,” even when that’s your reality. Instead, you’ll have to portray yourself as strong—without health issues, endlessly doing and doing—never resting, never needing rest. That’s the image he wants you to present to him and to others.
If you’ve ever met someone so selfish that they dumped all their responsibilities on you while sitting back and doing nothing themselves, then you know the sickness I’m talking about. Everyone has their own responsibilities, and if one person is forced to do the work of two or three, it means there are two people not carrying their share.
When you point out they are having certain responsibilities they don’t have a right to run from and push onto you, they’ll punish you, retaliate against you, become extremely ODD, throw one tantrum after another, leave you hanging even more, and make friends with a stalker who almost had you killed. They’ll join an incel group, where they now feel all-powerful and justified in their dysfunctional, sick behavior—think that their hatred of women is justified, and that it was them all along who was the victim and who was treated poorly, not them treating others poorly, putting them down as though they had no worth, commandeering you around as though you were a slave who had no rights, not ever allowing you to relax, sleep, do what’s good for you and your body—including not being in their energy, not taking on their emotions all of the time. (Pointing out to such a person that you’re an empath and that they have to take responsibility for their own emotions instead of filling you up with them as though you were an empty bottle waiting to be sold at a supermarket won’t make them stop either—it’s always about them, them, them, the 1000 things they did for you that you’re now supposed to feel grateful for, even when all they did was steal your rights, peace of mind, and independence from you.)
When you rest and relax, he’ll portray you as lazy, as pretending you’re in need of rest and relaxation when you aren’t. They’ll push you around, command you around, make you do this and that for them, as though they were some kind of king everyone needed to listen to. They also won’t be doing anything themselves—like, literally, nothing. You’ll be the one having to do not only your tasks, but theirs as well. Tell him to get out of your life, because he acts extremely spoiled and you won’t allow anyone to push their responsibilities onto you, claiming they need to do nothing because they are so special and everyone has to run after them? Well, he’ll just start another sick campaign where he’ll bully you while no one’s watching, degrade you so horrifically you may wish you were never born, attack you and your children in all kinds of ways, and basically just won’t let you have any rest and peace of mind.
I don’t even know if I can fully explain in words how extreme they can become, but let me tell you: a person may completely lose control, command you around like a cheap slave, and in the same breath tell you that you’re the one with such low status and standing that you deserve their poor treatment. This often happens after they’ve joined an incel group or have been brainwashed by someone else—unable to discern between socially acceptable and unacceptable behavior and do what is just and right.
Have you ever been treated like a slave?