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Silencing, Persecution, and the Aftermath of Having Been Drawn Into a War With a Narcissist
I have left Europe because I was persecuted by narcissists repeatedly.
02/05/2025
Ruth Silbermayr
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The narcissistic stalker has tried to threaten me and harassed me horrifically (again). He thinks he is above me, both in intelligence as well as looks, and if someone likes to stay in their own delusion, so be it. But if that delusional thinking is being pushed onto another person and the other person is now supposed to live in the delusion of that person, that’s a totally different story. Particularly, if this person is then in constant competition with you, constantly pushing you into having to talk to them, having to tell them how intelligent and good-looking they are (when this is not what you think about them), and telling you how ugly and dumb you are all the time, calling you derogatory names, treating you inhumanely, and cruelly.
When we are dealing with a toxic dynamic where one person has been drawn into a toxic dynamic by another person, please always, always, always look at where the dynamic originated, never judge things out of context, and don’t judge if you weren’t the one directly affected. Don’t play God by helping the abuser to remain in the life of the stalking victim (by believing his lies), and don’t judge the victim if you don’t know what’s actually been going on and haven’t been the one experiencing the stalking.
If you haven’t been through what I have been through, don’t judge either. You won’t know what it’s been like, period. Only people who have been through the exact same scenario will know what it’s like and what it has been like and are allowed to judge.
Sometimes people need to do what they need to do to get free from an abuser and a stalker, and they need to protect their life when they are constantly being attacked in a way that makes their life unlivable and in a way where another person is stealing their life from them — for example, by stealing their identity. And that’s that.
Please don’t see things bigger or smaller than they are. What is a huge boundary violation is a huge boundary violation, what is a small one is a small one and should be treated as such. In a democracy, people should be allowed to speak their truth without being silenced and punished. When things are taken out of context, someone may run in there, enable the abuser, and judge him to be the innocent victim he makes himself out to be. If your IQ is that low, so be it, but intelligent it is not to enable cruel, sadistic people to keep the abuse going, to keep the victim entrapped, and is not working for the highest good of all involved.
To the stalker: If you want to talk with your daddy about all the supposed stuff I’m doing, that’s going on, and whatever — well, so what! Talk all you want, spread your toxicity and keep the war and the dysfunction going. But I am not going to be a part of that dysfunction, keeping it all alive and approving of your toxic behavior.
You have talked about your daddy with me all day long. I have told you to shut your mouth and that I’m not responsible to listen to your daddy issues, but you kept going and going and going. I was asking for peace and quiet, but you didn’t leave me alone. No “no” is ever respected, no need for quietude is ever respected, no privacy is ever given. The harassment is constant, and the being forced into a caretaker role is constant. You got daddy issues? Resolve them and don’t talk about them with me, making me your private consultant, a person you deem is trustworthy enough for you to talk about all your private issues, not realizing I am not your trustee, a person who is willing to be considered to be in your close circle of friends for you to entrust me with all that toxic laji (laji: trash). You need a caretaker? Well, look for a grown-up who is willing to do that. Ideally, it will be one of your parents, or a person who is about a generation older than you, but not me.
Who am I? Not myself, a person who is only an object to be used by you, a sick stalker? A person who was born merely so you could see yourself shine in the reflection of me?
Whatever it is you and your daddy talked about, I am not interested (if you did talk about something, like you claimed, that is).
It is not my obligation to listen to you, spread lies, create smear campaigns, surround yourself with enablers of your abuse to then come here and claim, to my face, how bad, evil, narcissistic I am and that I need to allow you to keep your abuse going. I don’t care about people claiming non-narcissistic people are narcissistic, particularly if narcissists do that to smear my name. If a person is a malignant narcissist, feel free to call them that. But if a person isn’t and you’re now calling her that because you see her as your enemy, a woman who is your enemy simply because of having been born, and because she has rejected you, the incel who has poor social behavior and keeps on harassing her day in day out, though only the Kitchen God may know because for sure you’re keeping yourself hidden so no one can figure out what you’re doing, she’ll be able to see through the truth and won’t like it if you constantly verbally abuse her by calling her derogatory names and by telling everyone that she’s a narcissist. There’s a difference between pointing out someone who is dangerous and has done evil things is a narcissist, and between a narcissist shaming you for being a narcissist, portraying you as selfish, and as an evil, bad human being when you aren’t.
Goodbye. You aren’t welcome here and I don’t have an obligation to keep circling around you, allow your silencing of those who are naturally intelligent, introverted, female, and all the other traits you’re trying to annihilate within the other person. That which doesn’t exist doesn’t need to be killed, only that which exists, but isn’t allowed to in the mind of a narcissist, because it exposes the truth, needs to be killed. Only that which brings the truth to light needs to be persecuted, annihilated, killed, silenced, …
I left Europe because I was horrifically persecuted by narcissists. I have experienced a few years of hell on earth, and I am not the only one who is speaking up. People have been quiet about what has been going on because they have been silenced and persecuted. But more people are speaking out. A lot of people have been silenced because narcissists threatened them with the police and the courts. The things that are going on in Europe are horrific, and everybody who partakes in the persecution of an innocent is violating higher laws that should govern human behavior. Goodbye democracy, there’s no more reason for me to stay in Europe what with all that’s going on and the horrific persecution of the innocent, those who do speak up, those who do still think independently and won’t just let anyone throw mud onto them who feels like it. People are behaving like apes, not like human beings who have learned proper social behavior, and if you’ve ever crossed a narcissist’s path, you will know what that destruction will look like, how many people they are drawing into their imaginary war with an imaginary enemy, how everything will look like once the war is over: Either one innocent person will be dead, or she will have everything taken from her, her life in shambles and ruined, she’ll be alone and isolated, having had friends and family turned against her, or she will have had to flee to another country to try and get safe from people who are greeding and lusting after that which shall not be named (money, fame, or just the next huge kick to their ego, the one that will make them feel enough adrenaline pumping through their body).
I’d like to share a few phrases by famous poets, authors and philosophers that are hung up in my university, which I enjoyed reading:
“There is hope for a people when they have a group (Gruppe) of individuals who look up to the stars.” — Hegel
This is my adaptation (post Covid-19):
“There is hope for a people when they have successfully overcome the flu (Grippe).”
“Without cutting, jade cannot become a gem. Without education, one cannot understand what righteousness is.” — The Book of Rites
“Achievements are attained more through hard work than through leisure activities. Actions are taken more often after careful thought than by random decision.” — Han Yu
“Grey, dear friend, is all theory, and green the golden tree of life.” — Goethe
“The movement of Heaven is powerful; thus, the noble person strives tirelessly toward self-perfection. The condition of the Earth is tolerant; thus, the noble person, with great virtue, embraces all things.” — The Book of Changes
“He who makes a fool of others loses his virtue; he who occupies himself with useless things loses his sense of purpose.” — The Book of Documents
“All human strength is nothing but a combination of patience and time, and the so-called strong person possesses both the will and the ability to wait for the right moment.” — Balzac
“Two things fill the mind with ever new and increasing admiration and awe, the more often and the more steadily we reflect upon them: the starry sky above me and the moral law within me.” — Kant
“A wise person is distinguished by three qualities: First, they practice what they advise others to do; second, they never act against nature; and third, they tolerate the weaknesses of others.” — Leo Tolstoy
“Learning without thinking is pointless; thinking without learning is dangerous.” — Lun Yu
“Knowing is not enough; we must apply what we have learned. Willing is not enough; we must act on what we intend.” — Goethe
“Study extensively, review repeatedly, think carefully about it, analyze it thoroughly, put what you have learned into practice.” — The Book of Rites
“Life is like riding a bicycle: to keep your balance, you must keep moving.” — Albert Einstein
This is my opinion:
If you are an extrovert, then certainly you must. But if you’re in introvert, you would simply throw away the bycicle because nobody can be on the move all of the time.
To those who think introversion is weakness and silence is low self-esteem, please do not equate the wrong words with incorrect meanings:
- Silence is not the same as being silenced.
- Introversion is not an invitation to stay quiet in the face of a person who is loud and thinks you need to be quiet and silenced because you are a quiet introvert.
- Being loud doesn’t mean you have courage, it just means you drown out all that is beautiful.
- Not allowing others to be themselves, well, the only thing it points to is you being horrifically self-inconfident.
- Why fight against that which is not dangerous, that which doesn’t harm at all?
- Why silence people, so you can talk louder and spread your lies everywhere?
What silencing may feel like in your body if you’re an empath who takes on other people’s energy (such as a person not being okay with you speaking your mind freely):
- An inability to say no.
- A sore throat.
- Not being able to speak.
If there’s anyone blocking your ability to speak the truth, no matter if they are doing that to your face or behind your back, this is your body’s way of alerting you that they are doing so.
Yes, I saw the police when they went to my neighbour’s house—as though it were the Second World War, where people now report others to the police instead of simply leaving them alone. The Gestapo, always eager to imprison innocent people and let real criminals off the hook, was certainly happy to carry out unnecessary work. But then again, a narcissist will always be a narcissist, and there’s no reasoning with a fool—they’ll never understand simple words, because their brain simply can’t grasp meaning.
I am watching the events currently unfolding in Central Europe with horror. I have been personally affected in an extreme way, having narrowly escaped being killed multiple times by narcissists. I have also witnessed firsthand the deep corruption within authorities, courts, and other institutions. Those of us who speak out—myself included—often have everything taken from us and, in some cases, even lose our lives, either through murder or by taking our own lives due to the immense shaming we endure. My thoughts are with the victims who have faced experiences similar to mine.
The current dynamics in Europe, in my view, bear troubling similarities to historical patterns of persecution. Some may argue that drawing such comparisons risks minimizing the suffering of Jews under the Nazis — but that is not my intention.
On the contrary, I believe that remembering the cruelty, conscience-less brutality, and horror of the Holocaust should inspire us to recognize early signs of injustice today, wherever they appear. The persecution of innocent people, the silencing of dissent, and the suppression of truth by those in power are warning signs we should not ignore.
It is precisely because what happened to the Jews was so horrific that we must remain vigilant — not to equate current events with the Holocaust, but to prevent such atrocities from ever happening again.
I say the dynamics are similar as someone who has studied many books written by Jewish authors—people who showed immense courage by documenting what was happening before and during the Second World War. They risked their lives to tell the truth. Some were later murdered, while others managed to flee Austria and Germany, escaping what would have been certain death. The patterns they described are strikingly similar to what is happening in Central Europe today. If you’re observing from a neutral standpoint, the parallels are impossible to ignore.
Concerning the persecution of Jews, which started before the Second World War began, Wikipedia states the following:
In the 1920s, most German Jews were fully integrated into the country’s society as citizens. They served in the army and navy and contributed to every field of German business, science and culture. Conditions for German Jews began to worsen after the appointment of Adolf Hitler (the Austrian-born leader of the National Socialist German Workers’ Party) as Chancellor of Germany on 30 January 1933, and the Enabling Act (implemented 23 March 1933) which enabled the assumption of power by Hitler after the Reichstag fire of 27 February 1933. From its inception, Hitler’s regime moved quickly to introduce anti-Jewish policies. Nazi propaganda alienated the 500,000 Jews living in Germany, who accounted for only 0.86% of the overall population, and framed them as an enemy responsible for Germany’s defeat in the First World War and for its subsequent economic disasters, such as the 1920s hyperinflation and the subsequent Great Depression. Beginning in 1933, the German government enacted a series of anti-Jewish laws restricting the rights of German Jews to earn a living, to enjoy full citizenship and to gain education, including the Law for the Restoration of the Professional Civil Service of 7 April 1933, which forbade Jews to work in the civil service. The subsequent 1935 Nuremberg Laws stripped German Jews of their citizenship and prohibited Jews from marrying non-Jewish Germans.
These laws resulted in the exclusion and alienation of Jews from German social and political life. Many sought asylum abroad; hundreds of thousands emigrated, but as Chaim Weizmann wrote in 1936, “The world seemed to be divided into two parts—those places where the Jews could not live and those where they could not enter.” The international Évian Conference on 6 July 1938 addressed the issue of Jewish and Romani immigration to other countries. By the time the conference took place, more than 250,000 Jews had fled Germany and Austria, which had been annexed by Germany in March 1938; more than 300,000 German and Austrian Jews continued to seek refuge and asylum from oppression. As the number of Jews and Romani wanting to leave increased, the restrictions against them grew, with many countries tightening their rules for admission.
The difference I see today is that the focus of persecution has shifted. It now includes groups such as introverts, women, truth-tellers, empathetic individuals, and genuine victims—not those who play the victim to gain sympathy, but those who have truly suffered harm.
I recognize that there may be other persecuted groups as well; this list reflects only the patterns I have personally observed. These individuals are often seen as “weak” in the eyes of narcissists—people who, like Machiavellians, psychopaths, or sociopaths, expect little resistance from those who refuse to manipulate, exploit, or act without conscience.
Truth-tellers, in particular, are seen as a threat—because, quite simply, they tell the truth.
Have you ever been persecuted by narcissists?