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When You're Being Forced to Communicate Against Your Will
One common way a stalker harasses their victim is by forcing communication.
26/08/2025
Ruth Silbermayr
Author
One common sign of verbal abuse, harassment, and stalking is the perpetrator’s need to force you into “forced communication” with them.
Most normal people understand the right to privacy of another person and that they have the right to say no to harassment, unwanted attention, or being followed—either physically or through surveillance tools like spyware.
Saying no is usually easy when the other person is respectful, autonomous, and recognizes boundaries. They don’t project labels onto someone simply because she says no, avoids those who stalk, harass, or assault, and refuses to allow a person into her life who shows no respect for another person’s limits.
It is common for stalkers to be narcissistic, and communication with them is rarely enjoyable. They may be “blind” to the emotions of others, to the discomfort their harassment causes, and to who the other person actually is.
Stalkers often act as if everyone must enjoy talking or listening to them, or that no one has the right to be free from their verbal abuse.
Signs of Forced Communication
- Harassment: repeated texts, calls, emails, or messages after you’ve asked for no contact.
- Cornering: demanding answers, blocking exits, or physically intruding to force interaction.
- Emotional coercion: guilt-tripping, shaming, or threatening (“If you don’t answer me, you’re cruel/selfish/stonewalling”).
- Digital intrusion: using stalkerware, fake accounts, or constant tagging to force presence in your life.
- Social pressure: using family, friends, or colleagues to relay unwanted messages when you’ve chosen not to respond.
Why It’s Harmful
- Violates consent—the right to choose when and how to engage.
- Erodes autonomy—making the person feel trapped or silenced.
- Often escalates into controlling or stalking behaviors when boundaries are ignored.
- Creates fear and exhaustion—the victim cannot safely withdraw from unwanted contact.
In healthy communication, both people have the freedom to opt in or out. In forced communication, one person refuses to accept the other’s “no” and continues pushing for interaction.
The stalker may completely ignore the needs and feelings of their victim, considering only their own unhealthy desires. They may talk endlessly about themselves or a single issue, without respecting boundaries necessary for social conduct. They may be unable to perceive that the other person is uncomfortable, anxious, or physically affected by being forced into interactions where they are verbally abused, shouted at, degraded, humiliated, or otherwise prevented from meeting their own needs.
A victim may need sleep, solitude, or relief from overstimulation—especially if they are introverted, empathic, or a highly sensitive person. The stalker is often blind to this overload and the fact that the victim’s life has become unmanageable due to their behavior.
Stalkers may then guilt-trip the victim for going no-contact after harassment, insults, misogyny, unwanted communication, or sexual assault. The denial and projection are extreme: they may try to involve others in your private life, forcing you to tend to their needs, validate them, or even communicate affection or praise that you do not feel.
These individuals often live in a delusional reality, detached from normal social conduct. They believe you must tolerate stalking, voyeurism, or repeated sexual assault, because in their view, they are entitled to your attention, compliance, or submission.
It is deeply disturbing how they cannot perceive themselves accurately and instead project all of their antisocial behavior onto you.
Have you ever been forced to communicate with a person who harassed you?