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Usually, when I look for a partner, I focus on shared values. There has to be a natural match between me and the other person. I wouldn’t enter a relationship just based on looks, status, or career. What matters most is that we align naturally in certain important areas.

What I’ve experienced instead are people trying to “force a match” in ways that feel unnatural. When we work against what comes naturally, we end up forcing another person’s life path to shift in ways it’s not meant to.

Everyone has the right to make major life decisions as they see fit.

If you’re constantly interfering—especially in a way that resembles stalking or erotomania—you’re trying to control someone else’s life, which I call playing God.

I’ve never met anyone so delusional about who they are, what they can do, what they’re good at, or what they struggle with. If you’re schizophrenic, it’s essential to accept that reality, rather than pretending you’re a completely “normal” person. Denial only deepens the disconnect from reality.

When someone doesn’t even ask what I want in a relationship—but instead forces me to like or appreciate them, redefines abuse and sabotage as “help,” and demands my time, energy, and attention without giving anything meaningful in return—that’s coercion, not love.

Words carry energy. If someone truly loves another person, their energy will reflect that love even before the words are spoken. Empaths feel this. If you say you love someone but your energy, subconscious beliefs, and behavior don’t reflect that love, an empath will know the truth: you want something, not a connection.

No one who’s been through what I’ve been through wants to be harassed by someone who dominates the conversation with trivialities and self-interest. Communication requires mutual presence. Like I said: there’s no you or we in “me, myself, and I.” I’ve had enough normal, respectful interactions to recognize healthy social behavior. You don’t need manipulation tactics to connect with people—just natural, honest communication.

And even then, how hard is it to ask, “Are you okay with me talking to you?” Then wait for the answer—which, in my case, would be no. Instead, you override my words and answer for me, as if you were me: “Yes, I want to communicate with you.” That’s not respect.

Nonverbal communication is often more revealing than words. If your energy shows manipulation, hidden motives, or deception, an empath will feel it.

You’ve claimed to be an empath for years, but that can’t be true. An empath feels others on an emotional and subconscious level. Just saying you’re one doesn’t make it so—especially if you’re actually using that claim to gaslight others. A real empath can sense whether someone else is genuine.

Take Steven Bartlett, founder of The Diary of a CEO. To me, he’s someone with high emotional intelligence and a real empath. His emotional and intuitive intelligence is clear in the way he speaks, listens, and engages. His communication feels natural and respectful. That kind of respect is crucial. If someone doesn’t respect women, why would I keep them in my life?

Usually, people are drawn to each other because they’re a good match—not because they’re complete opposites in every way. If there’s a massive mismatch, it’s time to move on. Go find someone else who wants to put up with your behavior—someone who doesn’t mind being disrespected, talked down to, or used.

Why would I allow someone into my life who tries to steal from me emotionally, mentally, and materially? If you were truly an empath, you’d care about others—not just yourself. If all your communication is about you, and you’re not even receiving what others are saying, why would anyone want you around?

If you’re playing a “double game”—spying on me for your father, while pretending to be a friend—why would I let someone like that stay in my life? Someone who lies about my feelings, claims I’m dependent on them, when all they want is to use me?

Let’s be clear: either we’re friends, or we’re not. An enemy has no place in my life. If you treat me like the enemy, but still try to stay close just to exploit me, that’s not friendship. That’s manipulation. And I won’t allow it.