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Disrupting Alliances—"The Art of War" (Sunzi)
One of the methods Sunzi describes in his book “The Art of War” is disrupting alliances.
27/08/2024
Ruth Silbermayr
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Sunzi emphasizes the importance of disrupting the unity of the enemy’s forces by creating divisions or exploiting existing ones, thereby weakening the enemy.
Many narcissists master this method quite naturally, even if they haven’t read Sunzi’s book.
When you have relationships with strong bonds, narcissists often attempt to isolate you from these connections. They may tell you negative stories about the other person, leading you to eventually avoid them. My ex-husband did this, among other things, by falsely claiming that certain people had said bad things about me behind my back when they hadn’t. He did this with every friendship I had and with every stranger I met.
Yesterday, I was sending my mother a letter. The sociopath who has been trying to portray himself as “someone I like” over the past few days, has attempted to feign closeness so he could interact with me online, despite my repeated statements that I want no contact with him. He is constantly spying on me. When I wanted to send the letter, he tried to manipulate me into not doing so.
Another incident, which I initially attributed to the singer, I now believe was caused by the sociopathic stalker I have had. The singer has been trying to resolve this problem with me, as he has done with many other problems that were caused by this jealous, greedy stalker (it can be hard to know who’s hiding behind his computer). The incident involved a letter I was sending to the ECHR in France, which got caught up in the mail and could not be delivered. While this could be a coincidence, the frequent sabotages in my life—occurring almost daily or even multiple times daily—suggest that someone may have hacked into my accounts.
I’ve experienced similar issues with my energy provider, undelivered emails, and my social security accounts, among others, which this hacker could access.
No matter how often I tell him to leave me alone, that I find him unattractive and want nothing to do with him, he simply won’t.
I have to repeatedly tell him that I find him unattractive, not because I am a mean person, but because this person constantly tries to coerce me and intimidate me into feigning I like how he looks and that I have to tell him that he’s hot and sexy. For a fact, I don’t think this to be true!
Right now, he is displaying intense jealousy and is trying to dominate me by preventing me from having a relationship with my younger son or anyone else. Whenever I contact someone, he immediately comes online to divert my attention back to him, away from the other person or task. I can’t get a breather—he’s constantly there, no matter what I do. His tactics involve intense manipulation and gaslighting. Despite blocking him in every way I could, he appears wherever I go online. He’s constantly ‘in my face,’ so to speak. The pity party he’s been throwing is embarrassing, as is his attempt to appear as an intelligent and attractive man, rather than a completely deranged and mentally ill person.
I have encountered many greedy people and narcissists who have either tried to or succeeded in destroying my relationships, but this person really tops them all!
Have you ever had your relationships destroyed by a narcissist?