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When the Desire to Be Left Alone Is Called Stonewalling
I describe how a stalker starts to guilt-trip a person when she asks to be left alone.
26/08/2025
Ruth Silbermayr
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A stalker may be so enmeshed with you that he can’t discern who he is from who you are.
The sociopathic stalker I have written about (who still harasses me through various means—if a person uses tools such as stalkerware, it is extremely hard to remove them from your life or prevent them from gaining access to you in one way or another) constantly refers to me as though I am another person. He constantly comments, not allowing me to speak for myself, as though I were a little child who isn’t able to speak for herself.
He is doing so because he is sick. Period. Mentally sick. No sane person would feel the need to silence another person like this, to not allow her to speak, but instead constantly put words into her mouth, declare who she is and who she isn’t, and project all of what he is and does onto her (namely, his dysfunction and sociopathy).
In this way, introversion soon becomes stonewalling and the silent treatment, and he’ll start guilt-tripping you with sentences such as, “Now you’re stonewalling me and I don’t allow you to do that,” sooner rather than later.
Ha, ha, ha! Because all the narcissism knowledge is wrong, and you should stay in contact with a stalker who is harassing you, has threatened to or raped you, and is still looking for contact with you? That’s really the logic of a great mastermind—someone who must be extremely superior in intelligence, and who doesn’t want you to tell him any differently to his face.
If only screaming at another person how delusional they are about themselves would make that person go away—certainly, that’s what I’ll have to resort to if they don’t leave me alone after I have already asked, quite politely, that they now leave my life forever. Please. That’s my right. And no, I won’t take down THAT BOUNDARY.
You know—the right that I am me, not him. The right that I do speak for myself, and that he doesn’t get to speak for me, misrepresent me and who I am, and demand that I bow down to him and let him speak instead of me.
Stonewalling … well, that’s not the same as being an introvert who simply wants to be left alone. If you’re a great human being who is funny, polite, respectful, and asks other people if they want to hang out with you or do things with you, then probably people will want to stay close to you anyways—unless they have more important things to do, such as finishing tasks or projects and concentrating on more pressing things. You know—things that have nothing to do with the pettiness of a stalker who is lying about you all day long and thinks you were born to serve him, pay attention to him, and bow down to him, the greatest gender of all: male.
Why stonewalling isn’t the same as introversion, being an HSP, being an empath, or needing time alone and away from stalkers who harass, abuse, degrade, humiliate, and rape … oh well, let’s not get into these details in this article. Hopefully, dear reader, you are intelligent enough to perceive the reasons why someone would choose for themselves with what kind of people they engage, and with whom they do not, would never, and are never going to.
If you aren’t intelligent enough, then please leave my blog and never come back, since we aren’t a match intellectually. Thanks and goodbye to those of my readers who are suffering from being dumb, intolerant, or otherwise brain-impaired.
But if you’re simply keeping quiet and remain a reader who isn’t intrusive, you’re still allowed to stay. Just don’t contact me if you’re an incel, misogynistic, a stalker, or if you have secret thoughts of wanting to rape me.
Welcome to those who are kind, intelligent, thoughtful, not lacking a sense of humor, humble and mindful, respectful of women, and who appreciate all the hard work a woman, a truth-teller, a scapegoat, or anyone who has been through similar experiences has done.
Have you ever been harassed by a stalker?