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When You’re Considered to Be a Person Who Has No Rights
Certain narcissists enjoy treating people as though there was a true caste system in place.
09/06/2025
Ruth Silbermayr
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One particular narcissist who has been stalking me for years has invaded every part of my life, including the very private details of my personal life. This includes stalking any personal information—who I’ve been with in the past, all of my personal relationships, everyone he’s discovered I’ve had any connection to, including family members and children.
When I have a meet-up with someone, he acts as if he’s entitled to know everything about it. He treats anything private as if it’s public, and as though individual rights don’t apply—at least not in my case.
This reminds me of how Jews were treated by the Nazis: like people of a lower caste, people who had no right to anything—especially not to enjoy the same rights the Nazis claimed for themselves. He behaves this way based on his own assumptions about me—that I’ve been shunned by others for some supposedly valid reason, rather than something arbitrary like: “she’s been through horrific experiences, tried to share them, asked for help, and was then treated like an outcast.” This is an all-too-common pattern when you look at what’s happening to many people on a larger scale—people who’ve gone through similar things.
You can tell him as much as you like that he isn’t above you, that he isn’t better than you, that he’s not competent in what he’s doing, that he’s violating severe boundaries, and that you have a right to privacy—but he’ll ignore it, pretend it doesn’t exist, or try to “hoover” you by saying the most horrific things. (Usually, when he tries to hoover, it isn’t even a real hoover like that of other narcissists—more like a pathetic attempt to make everything about him again. Most narcissists, even the ones who are terrible suitors, at least hoover in a way that makes the other person feel seen or heard.)
He makes assumptions about which rights I have based on how others treat me, and what position I hold in his made-up caste system—based on sociopathic ideas about how the world works, which are obviously very wrong. He doesn’t really understand how the world works, what laws and regulations truly matter, and he never sees you as an individual with rights.
He acts like he’s royalty, like he has a million rights, while I have none—not even the right to private space, not to be touched, not to be stared at while at home, etc. The way he treats other people makes me sick. And if you ever cross paths with this narcissist, you’ll be treated so inhumanely, you’ll be shocked anyone could treat another person that way.
By the way, my worth doesn’t come from how others treat me—it comes from who I truly am. That worth is part of me, not something others can assign or take away. The rights I have are also inherent—rights a person simply has, such as the right not to be harassed by a stalker.
Have you ever experienced stalking?