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From Rights to Ruin: The Narcissist’s World Order
Narcissists have a long history of destroying other people’s lives.
06/05/2025
Ruth Silbermayr
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I grew up in a society where, legally speaking, everyone was meant to enjoy the same rights and liberties under the constitution.
But what I see today no longer resembles what I remember. It feels like some people are pushing themselves into positions of power that they’re not naturally suited for. Even without the necessary skills or talents, they manage to displace others—those who are competent, and qualified.
There are certain rules and natural structures in how things work. Some individuals may have an inherent aptitude or rightful place in a role—based on ability or being suited to do something, as well as having the right to do so. But when people force themselves into those spaces through manipulation or aggression, they often dismantle what works and create chaos and complicate things for others.
Pushy people will push you out of everything. If you live in a shared flat, a narcissist may push you out of your room, may push you out of the kitchen, and may make sure you don’t get to enjoy time in the living room talking to other people. You may find yourself leaving the apartment more often than not, because a person has become violent and aggressive when you were in the kitchen cooking peacefully.
They will think that they are entitled to their room and to their stuff and possessions, but whatever is yours needs to be shared with everyone, particularly with them, and that while they are allowed to have a career, relationships, friends, privacy, freedom, you, certainly, aren’t.
I have seen more and more men taking on views where society is turned into a caste system. The highest caste is men (this is common if they are a part of an incel group, where men are seen as being on the top, enjoying all kinds of rights, while women are seen as mere slaves who have no rights). Men who have a certain university degree or education may be seen as being right on top with them, but women are somewhere way beneath them. They are living their lives as though these rules are actually in place, not as though they are simply made up in their heads.
When you look at how malignant narcissists act and have experienced malignant narcissists over and over, you’ll be very familiar with these patterns. They’ll make you not only give up your rights, but will also make sure you don’t get a say in anything and that you adhere to their wicked world order.
In the case of the sociopathic stalker, the caste system he has created in his head is not only terrifically dumb, it is also completely misaligned. It puts dumb people on the top, and intelligent people on the bottom (particularly women). Because, as a male narcissist, who would want for an intelligent woman to make intelligent decisions for herself instead of some kind of retarded paranoid schizophrenic man who doesn’t have much life experience and is certainly lacking a mirror, a conscience and common sense to make decisions instead of her? Nobody would want that if they were a male narcissist, particularly not this specific person, because that would mean that she gets to make her decisions, not him and it would prove that she’s better at managing life, at managing her tasks, at enjoying life and at living relationships than him.
If we compare how things are and how they used to be, I can see many similarities between how really malignant narcissists behave towards women, introverts and anyone else they deem not good enough and how Nazis behaved towards the Jews.
Between 1933 and 1937, the first laws that limited Jewish people’s rights were introduced and the Jewish population was excluded from certain professions and many had to close their offices, such as doctors and lawyers. One such regulation of laws was the Nuremberg Laws which were introduced in 1935 where “Jews” were defined as a racial category and they were stripped of many civil rights.
“Aryanization” started in 1938. Hitler thought that Austrians and Germans belonged to the Aryan race and that this was a race that was superior to other races. We can observe here that only one “race” was allowed, and people had to be the same or they were excluded, persecuted, prosecuted or even put to death. Everybody had to think the same, and believe the same. Even one hair color was deemed better than others, and that was the hair color blonde, which was seen as the hair color of a pure “Aryan”, though it was different from Hitler’s hair color, who had brown hair as a grown up. We can see how many Germans, for example, in Northern Germany have the hair color blonde. Jews, who often had brown or black hair, could sometimes easily be distinguished by their looks, though certainly, some may not have looked like Jews or some “Aryans” may not have looked like “Aryans”.
In Austria, being blonde is common, but so is having brown and black hair. We have mixed hair colors, and being blonde is just one out of many colors.
Recently, the sociopathic stalker has started to shame me for my mixed heritage, though it isn’t even very mixed, since there are many Austrians in my ancestral line. There are also Russians, Czech ancestors (as far as I understand) and people who belonged to the group of the Roma. I don’t even know if he knew enough about history to know that Roma were put into concentration camps just as Jewish people were (and my grandmother had to keep this information a secret, as well as was frightened telling others that her grandparents belonged to the group of the Roma—her mother was adopted as a baby). But as soon as he found out this information, he started treating me like a lower race. To me, it seems like he belongs to the German right, though he’s keeping this a secret as people who belong to the far right usually do because they are afraid they’ll be found out, that they’ll be prohibited from gathering in groups with other extremists, etc.
To me, having a somewhat mixed heritage is completely normal. In fact, it’s common for Austrians to have mixed backgrounds due to our complex history. It’s nothing unusual and certainly nothing to be ashamed of. (Many Germans also have mixed heritage and aren’t exactly “pure blood”—if we’re using Harry Potter terminology.) Personally, I don’t even feel particularly “mixed,” as these roots go back generations. I didn’t grow up speaking other languages or living in different countries, and all of my relatives spoke German as their mother tongue. Being of mixed heritage doesn’t make someone less of a person. If anything, I see it as a positive aspect, not a negative one. People are born the way they are—and no one should be blamed for what is inherent and inborn.
Anyway, I often observe how people behaved historically and compare it to the behavior of malignant narcissists—especially those who have become dangerous to others and don’t limit themselves to their own rights and spaces, but actively try to destroy others. When I notice something that stands out as a pattern, I like to compare it with different sources, combine it with my own life experience and what others have shared, and from there, draw conclusions.
“Aryanization” meant the transfer of Jewish property to “Aryans”. Many museums were asked to give back stolen art to Jewish communities after the Second World War, because not only were houses, financial property and other possessions stolen from Jews, but art was stolen from them as well and sold for high prices or put into museums. Many Jews found it impossible to make a living after November 12, 1938, when the Decree on the Elimination of Jews from German Economic Life was introduced and they were prohibited from doing commercial activity after the November Pogrom (called Kristallnacht in German).
All of this is very similar to how malignant narcissists behave. I’ve encountered narcissists who saw me as a ‘lower caste’ (for lack of a better term), pushed me out of my ability to work or maintain a career, and forced me to hand over my belongings—my projects, my possessions, and other aspects of my life. I don’t say this to minimize what happened to the Jews, because those events were horrific. I’m simply pointing out the patterns that emerge when things go too far—when malignancy becomes truly destructive—and reminding others that some individuals go far beyond what can be considered harmless. If you’re a peaceful, quiet, introverted woman, you shouldn’t feel obligated to keep people in your life who bring only conflict and destruction.
When you’re treated like you belong to a lower caste by a German incel—whether it’s because you’re a woman, Austrian, or have a Chinese ex—and when you’re constantly dehumanized and denied basic dignity, you start to see the parallels and understand the psychological roots of Nazi behavior: malignant narcissism. In this mindset, anything that threatens their delusion of superiority must be destroyed.
Even if both of you live in separate homes, the narcissist may irrationally feel that your having a home is a threat to theirs. It doesn’t make logical sense, but narcissists operate from a place of survivalism, projection, and hostility. Peaceful coexistence isn’t possible with them—they always feel the need to dominate or eliminate others.
Starting in 1941, Jewish people were deported to ghettos and camps. They had to live in inhumane conditions and were not treated like human beings. All property was confiscated, and Nazis moved into the apartments of Jews, confiscated their bank accounts, furniture, jewelry and clothing.
A common belief of some kinds of narcissists is that other people aren’t allowed to have their own possessions, and all their hard work is theirs. They aren’t allowed to do work and then claim that it was their accomplishment—no, it’s the narcissist’s! Nazis certainly had many members who were narcissists. Narcissists are usually conscienceless and cruel, and we can easily see how many Nazis acted similar to narcissists and that patterns that are common with narcissists can also be identified within the behavior of many Nazis. They don’t usually have a problem with killing other people if they are Machiavellian and psychopaths, and they certainly won’t have enough awareness to see other human beings as being just as worthwhile and of having the right to have rights just like them. They won’t see it that way and will make sure you’re reminded every day of the lie you’ve been believing: which is that you aren’t allowed to have rights.
The expropriation of Jews that started in 1933 shows us that extremely malignant narcissists were in power at that time and pushed people out of everything that was theirs, with horrific consequences later when Jews were being put into concentration camps and had to work and live there under inhumane conditions, and were then put to death.
Many people say that things aren’t as bad nowadays, but I believe we need to stay vigilant. What’s happening in Ukraine shows that people are capable of extreme atrocities in Europe. The dynamics in Austria and Germany should not be minimized or dismissed as harmless—especially when similar structures and patterns can already be observed. In light of history, we must recognize them as dangerous.
Have you ever been stripped of your rights by a narcissist?