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No, I Wouldn't
(Or: You don’t get to choose that.)
04/05/2025
Ruth Silbermayr
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If a man is schizophrenic, would I want to be with him?
No, I wouldn’t.
If a man doesn’t respect my sexual boundaries, would I want to be with him?
No, never.
If a man is a malignant narcissist, would I want to be with him?
Hell, no.
If a man doesn’t look attractive to me, would I want to date him?
Certainly not.
If a man doesn’t allow me to have a say in anything in my life, would I want to be with him?
No, I wouldn’t.
If a man acts hysterically, like a woman, would I want to be with him?
No, certainly not.
If a man is childish and doesn’t have proper social behavior, would I want to be with him?
No, I wouldn’t.
If a man is not intelligent, would I want to date him?
No, why would I?
If a man is racist, would I want to be with him?
Thanks, but no thanks.
If a man treats others horrifically, would I want to be with him?
No, never.
If a man treated me like a cheap object, would I want to be with him?
No, I wouldn’t.
If a man is interested only in superficial topics and activities, would I want to be with him?
Hell, no. Never.
If a man can’t communicate properly, would I want to be with him?
No, thanks.
If a man isn’t giving in a relationship, would I want to be with him?
No, I wouldn’t.
If a man can’t let others talk and has to be the center of attention, would I want to be with him?
Hell, no.
If a man is only circling around himself and all that counts are his needs, experiences, and opinions, would I want to be with him?
No. Certainly not.
If a man doesn’t have a distinct personality and a good character, would I want to be with him?
No, never.
If a man never gives, but constantly demands that others give to him, would I want to be with him?
Ha — as though!
If a man is trying to keep me separate from my children, would I want to be with him?
No, I never would!
So, why, after all these years,
do you still claim I’m in love with you—
and that I like to spend time with you?
Technically speaking, if I’m a woman who is attracted to the opposite sex, there are three choices:
To stay single, to date a man I like, or to date a man I don’t like.
.I choose this for myself.
You don’t get to choose that instead of me.
Because I haven’t met any man I like in recent years, I choose to stay single.
I enjoy being single.
There’s nothing wrong with being single.
Being single is enjoyable—and awesome.
I can be single, and I can be an attractive, beautiful woman.
Being single doesn’t mean I’m unattractive, ugly, or that I “can’t get” a man—or that I have to accept any man who crosses my path.
No, I don’t.
I don’t have to do any of what you were trying to force me to do, intimidate me to do, or coerce me into doing.
(Lacking a mirror? Since you enjoy shopping so much, get one at IKEA®—we also call it: “I KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT RUTH.”)
I enjoy spending time alone.
You don’t get to choose that for me.
Just like all the other things you tried to steal from me — my rights — by making my choices for me.
You don’t get to choose that.
I repeat: YOU DON’T GET TO CHOOSE THAT.
Have you ever had to deal with a person who was constantly lying about you?
On a side note: There is no you or we in me, myself and I.