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Take your rage out on someone else
Calm down, take a breath, and heal your own issues instead of projecting them onto me.
30/10/2024
Ruth Silbermayr
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(The language of this video is German).
I have the right to look after myself, heal from a severe illness, and be left alone. I nearly died in 2022 and again in 2023, and I will not allow disrespectful people like you to remain in my life.
When you lash out in anger, the issue isn’t me—it’s you. When you refuse to let me heal, the problem isn’t me—it’s you. And when you obsessively talk about your ex, idolizing her as perfect, talented, and superior to me while diminishing my worth, you’ve crossed a line. No mature or self-confident man would behave this way.
You don’t have the right to belittle me, and I have the right not to listen.
Calm down. Center yourself. Take responsibility for your emotions instead of projecting them onto others. The problem lies within you, not me. What I see is a grown man with low self-esteem, pretending to be flawless, pretending to be godlike, thinking that he never needs to go within and heal his own issues. You act as if sickness doesn’t exist, as if people don’t die from disease, and as if I should ignore my illness, tend to you and your needs, instead of tending to my own needs and caring for myself.
I’m not your mother, and I’m not here to take care of you. Usually, I’m forced to tend to you (by you)—your tantrums, your attempts to demand my full attention—all so that I can’t take care of myself, my children, or address the other responsibilities that require my focus.
I believe we’ve all heard of people who experienced severe side effects, either after having COVID-19 or after receiving the COVID-19 vaccines. So let’s not pretend these conditions don’t exist or that people don’t die from disease.
If you’re not a therapist, don’t suggest that I need to do anger therapy (especially not in your presence). That’s not just misguided—it’s disturbing. The right thing to do is to look within and confront your own issues. The problem is always within you, not the other person. You’ve blamed me for everything—from your ex-girlfriend’s behavior to your own cheating. Deal with your own issues and stop making me responsible for things I am simply not responsible for.
Have you ever been prevented from healing from a serious illness by someone who didn’t want you to recover?