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“I Would Like for you to buy a new menstrual cup”

The stalker I have written about is not willing to leave me alone and respect my privacy.

30/08/2024

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“I Would Like for You to Buy a New Menstrual Cup”

“I would like for you to buy a new menstrual cup,” the stalker I have written about on my blog once told me.

“I wish to have sex with you; you have to have sex with me, you are not allowed to say no, because having sex with me is what you actually want, and not ‘not wanting to have sex with me’, as you have claimed,” he said another day.
“I am going to spend time with you, and you need to accept this, because otherwise, you are excluding me and doing so is not okay,” he stated on yet another day.
“You’re a whore if you’re not in a relationship with me. If you’re single, I will be in a relationship with you because a woman who isn’t in a relationship is a worthless piece of shit, and you are worth nothing anyways”, he told me on yet another occasion.
“No, thanks. Goodbye. Now, please leave my life forever,” I have replied to many of this stalker’s advances.
“I am intelligent, and you are dumb and insane. I have been with a lot of women. Because you are dumb, you don’t know what’s best for you. I know what’s best for you, and you can’t get rid of me. I will always be here, and I will always make sure to remind you that I know what’s best for you. What’s best for you is to be with me. You are not allowed to spend time alone and without me. I will watch whatever you are doing, because I have a right to do so. You have no right to throw me out. You are insane because you have been trying to cut off contact with me.”
These are just a few of the phrases I’ve had to endure from this stalker who tries to suppress my opinion and gaslight me into submission. He cuts me off mid-sentence and won’t allow me to live my own life and have an identity that is separate from him. He has also told me I can’t have contact with my children, that he is the only person who is allowed to be important in my life, and if I do have contact with my children or make them my priority, he will take revenge.
Of course, women have every right to not be coerced into a relationship they don’t want, especially when the man is not even asking but commanding, and acts as though the woman is insane simply for saying ‘no’ to him. As a stalker, you do not have a right to be in my life, to contact me, to talk as though I don’t exist, and to talk down to me as though I don’t have an opinion and rights of my own.
To this stalker: Please refrain from blackmailing me and stop your harassment. I don’t want to hear what you have to say, and you should feel ashamed for treating a woman with such disrespect and infringing on her privacy in such a sick and insane way.
What is the sentence that any normal woman would think in this situation? “Wow, that’s gross!”
I would like for you to buy a new menstrual cup

Oh, and thanks to the man who sent me this picture of him in an elevator on a dating app—I wasn’t really there to date, but rather to prove to this insane stalker, who has projected onto me that I’m so insane and ugly that no man except for him would ever take me as his girlfriend—that there have been enough men who have shown interest, it is simply not an option I am choosing right now.

I enjoy being single and there is no need to start harassing a woman who has chosen this option—and yes, being single is a healthy option and a woman doesn’t need to be shamed for it. In times like these, where every second man you meet is a 流氓 (liumang), I’d rather stay single and happy. 

Have you ever dealt with a stalker who started to blackmail you after you distanced yourself from him?

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